Tuesday, September 13, 2011

How many people had what they call the ideal wedding ?

You know you or the parents paid for everything. The nice white wedding dress, the formal engagement with the announcement in the paper, nice diamond , big wedding cake , video and photographer, limo, caterer . Baby after you were married.


I'm talking the all american dream wedding or something close?





This is my story: This was the first time I got married, been married twice. My girlfriend and I were living together , neither of us had much use for God at that time. We had a son together and he was deathly ill in the hospital from meningitis, He ended up dying at age seven from this. We decided to go get married . So we got our license and went to the court house and got married by a judge after a murder trial that was going on. I was in a flannel shirt and blue jeans and she wore something nice. Then we went to the hospital to be with our son.


Its something how your life changes from breaking all of Gods rules to making Jesus your Lord and Savior.





So whats your storyHow many people had what they call the ideal wedding ?
Ok, here's my story:





I ran away with my boyfriend during high school and we got married after I graduated. We got married at a wedding chapel because my husband was an athiest at the time and refused to set foot in a church, even for his own wedding. I was backsliden at the time, so I went along with it. Needless to say we made many mistakes, but we were happy and did the best we could with what we had. But even though I was away from God, He never let me go.





As the years went by, God tugged at my heart, but I didn't have a church home. God eventually used a mutual friend of ours to bring me back to Him.





Unfortunately, the closer I got to God, the farther I got from my husband. Fortunately, God used His body (of believers, aka the church) and surrounded us both with people who supported us and lifted us in prayer. Still we continued to drift apart and our marriage almost ended. But the day we decided to get a divorce, my husband accepted Christ and literally changed overnight. I didn't believe it at first, but God was changing me too. I didn't want to stay with my husband, but God told me too, so I obeyed Him and stuck it out for a little while. As time went on, my husband proved sincere, and God proved faithful.





A year later, my husband got together with our entire church and put together a vow renewal ceremony, which was the ';ideal picture'; wedding in our church. It was a surprise anneversary present for me.





Anyway, now we are continuing to grow together and in the Lord. God has and is blessing us and restoring what the enemy had taken away. He is more than awesome!





Oh, and about the baby thing, no baby yet. Unfortunately we have not been able to have children. It's hard, but I am believing God to change that. But even if He doesn't, I know it's for a good reason and I praise Him either way.How many people had what they call the ideal wedding ?
Thanks =)


From what you have shared and your other postings it sounds like you have a pretty great testimony yourself (or several). God is so awesome and it's amazing how He works in so many ways in all of us.


Many blessings.

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First wedding 1968...I was 16, pregnant, and, although I wanted to get married, had no say in how, what, where, or when.





Fast forward to 1986...second wedding...held in the backyard of the house we were renting, 1920's theme wedding, beautiful vintage 1920's bead encrusted dress and headpiece, guests dressed to kill in 20's attire, champagne bottles spontaneously popping their corks as we came down the ';aisle'; after the ceremony.....This wedding was killer!!!





I couldn't have had a better ceremony or pledged my love to a more wonderful guy.
i picked up up from work after going to a pawn shop to buy 2 20$ wedding bands...went to the jp on his lunch hour brought him back to work..that night i watched him put a clutch in his truck and we went to bed........i was already 7 months pregnant...got divorced 7 years later...i am now engaged to a man i have been with 4 years..i have 2 kids he has 2 kids and we are planning on going to the jp with the kids then him and i will be off to jamica to celebrate...at this point in our lives wasting a ton of money on a ';dream'; wedding just isnt important anymore..i am very sorry to hear about your son....
I'm not married yet but will be on Dec 21st. We met on Match.com last July and have been together ever since. We're having a modest wedding. Of course I'm having the wedding dress and make up artists and limo...but I also set a budget and I haggled prices so I could have some of the Dream wedding items. Other items I'm doing without...no reception flowers, no church flowers, not having a large bridal party or fancy photographer. I think for me it was knowing that I wanted something elegant but not pricey...I wanted this to be a wonderful event for us...not as a show off piece. It's important that we are married in the eyes of God, and that we are making a life-long commitment to each other. Really it doesn't matter if ur married in a back-alley wearing a garbage bag; what matters is ur love for each other!
My wedding was in the backyard of his parent's house. The entire family helped. We had homemade food, favors from the dollar store, we decorated EVERYTHING. We even had a family friend as the officiant. It was BEAUTIFUL. The only glitch was that I was an hour late. Can't complain about that when everything else went PERFECTLY. All my friends and family helped out.
My wedding story was almost ideal. I had the beautiful dress, handsome groom, all expenses paid, first class everything and did not even have to plan anything myself, my husband's family took care of everything. They even had a printer create a special cutting die to make our invitations because until we had ours designed (by my sister in law) that style did not even exist. I showed driven up in the top of the line 500 series Mercedes to a packed church very lovely decorated with fresh flowers and candles, we had our traditional Orthodox ceremony and afterwards released two doves into the air. Our guests congratulated us and presented us with gifts of gold coins or jewelery for me. We then had a fabulous reception with the best food and live entertainment. Everyone had a wonderful time. The reason that this wedding was not 100% ideal is that not a single member of my family was present. For all of the beauty and glamour of my wedding day it was a bittersweet day for me because none of them were able or willing to make the overseas trip to share my special day with me. I felt very welcomed and loved by my husband's family and extended family but it was not the same as if my side was there. My smile would have been much brighter that day. Still I had a wedding of dreams and a great husband, home and child (soon to be 2 of them) and am still close with my family. But if there is a point to my story it doesn't really matter what your wedding day is like if you have ALL the important people in your life with you it is as good in a city hall as it is in a grand ceremony.
Nothing as heartbreaking as yours.


I got married in a double wedding with my sister. I was 7 months pregnant and she was 4 months pregnant. We got married in my aunts living room with a cousin performing the ceromony (she was a notary in SC they can marry people?!?!?) We had a reception afterwards at the house. We had about 50 people to attend and spent less than $200 all together. The worst thing about it is our dad didn't attend and wouldn't let our stepmom come. That kinds hurt. My hubby wore jeans and a sweater...i wore a skirt borrowed from my aunt..i couldn't get into anything else. I guess I should also mention that I was 17 and my sister was 15. My husband and i are still together after 16 years and 4 kids. My sister however is on her 3 rd marriage.


I'm very sorry for your loss and I'm glad that you have found your Lord and Savior. God Bless.
We're in our late 30's, met through eHarmony, but went to high school together 20 years ago and never knew each other, really...neither of us has ever been married and we have no children...we had a wonderful courtship so far, and were engaged 18 months after our first date-a romantic proposal with a lovely 1 carat diamond ring. We'll be married in February (a yearlong engagement), in the Virgin Islands with about 35 family and close friends present followed by a fun clambake reception in our hometown after we return so we can celebrate with about 200! We've bought land and will build a house starting in November...so, yes, I guess this will be the ideal wedding as you describe...I'm glad I waited ofr my REAL Mr Right to come along...patience is certainly a virtue!
';Ideal wedding'; means something different to different people. The common male ideal is the one that only cost $10.





To me, it's not the wedding that matters, but what happens after. My wife and I just celebrated our 24th anniversary.
I had the ideal wedding 7 months ago. :) No baby yet, though. We're holding off on that for a while.
My high school sweetheart joined the military and I went off to college. He proposed when we were 19 in NYC in front of Saint Patrick's Cathedral the weekend before Christmas (2004), i finished college while he was stationed/deployed across the US and Iraq. We got married February 2007. We had 180 friends and family at our wedding to celebrate.. he wore his dress blues, i wore a fabulous white dress. We had a wonderful band, great photographer and videographer. We had a chrystler 300 strech limo.. there was a ice storm/ and snow 4 days before our wedding so there was snow and ice on the ground and trees (but it did not limit the travel for the wedding plans!).. it was gorgeous.. it was my dream wedding .... check out my photos at :


www.timelessexpressions


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click order online, choose ';kristen and sean'; use KPSO and ENJOY!
My husband and I seem to be part of a dwindling group these days. We've both been married only to each other (for nearly 22 years). We both waited to have sex until after we were married. We married in my home church. I wore my mother's white 1950's wedding dress. We were engaged for a year and spent that time saving up and preparing to be married. We went to pre-marital counseling at our church. We helped my parents pay for the wedding, and we had a large wedding with about 600 guests and all the trimmings. Looking back, it was more than we really needed and a lot of things we did just to please our parents. If I were planning my wedding now, it would be smaller, simpler, with only my closest friends and family. Still it was a beautiful, candlelit wedding that I'll always remember.
First of all, let me offer my sincerest condolences on the loss of your son. I, too, have lost a young child. I personally think it is one of the darkest hours we will ever face...





My ';wedding'; was a sham! I sought to have a small and simple ceremony in a wedding chapel. It was not an extragavant affair by any stretch of the imagination. My ';friends'; were taking the photos, doing the music, and the cake.





My photos are choppy and fuzzy, the stereo had a bad speaker, and the cake was undone in the center. During the ceremony someone's toddler let a wail that peirced the room!





My dad shook my groom's hand and said '; welcome to the family son, by the way--no deposit and no return';.





By all accounts our marriage should have been a disaster. In reality, we have raised three young ladies, have seen the entire continental USofA together and have never been seperated due to anger.





Yes, the Good Lord has richly blessed us indeed. I would not trade the worst day for a ';dream wedding';.
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