Thursday, September 22, 2011

Fiancee suddenly changed and broke up with me ... is it just anxiety?

Beautiful relationship of three years. Engaged on NYE. Girlfriend / Fiancee was all excited and lovey dovey up until yesterday. Two days ago she is on the phone with my mother and then me with her mother talking about our wedding, etc. We have been together a long time and she was planning to move to my town to be with me next month. Literally overnight she does a 180 and abruptly breaks up with me saying she is too young and doesnt have enough life experience, etc .... Keep in mind not new issues and she has been the one pushing marriage. Now I guess I am single all of a sudden? WTF? Is this kind of anxiety / cold feet normal and is she going to snap out of it or are we really broken up? Her entire family is pissed at her and on my side. But she is stubborn and I guess now not only doesn't want to be engaged but also doesn't want to be in this relationship. I am shell shocked and embarrassed. And confused as hell. Seriously 24 hours earlier she was going on and on about how excited and in love she was etc ... And I'm not sure what to do.Fiancee suddenly changed and broke up with me ... is it just anxiety?
I think all you can do now is wait...but almost always when people make extreme decisionslike that they are not real. It will work out :)Fiancee suddenly changed and broke up with me ... is it just anxiety?
If you are sub 23 don't get married. You are both too young.
Yeah sounds like anxiety to me, she must not be ready. Better this happens now than a divorce down the road.
It happens alot; especially around our age. I feel bad cause I did the same thing to my bf right after military boot camp. However; our relationship did have alot of problems that would have surely made it to divorce if I was there. But alot of the reason was I had only been in this one relationship for 4 years and thought ';if i get married; my life is over';. I didnt like the pressure. The idea that at 22 yrs old the fun of going out might stop before it needed to.



She might just need time to rethink things. She might come around; and if she does she might just want to be in a relationship...but since shes pissed off your family...she has alot of explaining or good to make up in order to get accepted in the family again.



sorry about your situation. i was also dumped today.
She was going to have to move to your town.That could be a very big deal. That bit of information makes me think she got scared. It's possible she is panicking as the reality of what she was about to do set in. Having cold feet may be common, but that doesn't mean it's not a serous matter.

You need to camp out on her doorstep until she gives you a better explanation. You deserve it! If you really get to the bottom of the matter, you just might find that it is something ridiculous like fear of moving to a new location.
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