Shy guy who likes me, or shy guy who is just nice. Please! I have to know?

Does he like me? I really need advice here...?

Ok, so I teach at a performing arts studio/school. I also attend classes there as a student. I started noticing a guy staring at me a WHOLE lot when I would be in dance class. I noticed that he would go out of his way to look at me. He is also a performer (as a career and musician for dance class at the school.



I started taking note of when he looked at me in the school. I also noticed that when he would get close to me, just through proximity, he would get incredibly nervous. He would get fidgety and seemed to be blushing.



I got so touched by how nervous he was, so I decided to take the opportunity to make things easier on him and I found him on face book through a mutual performer friend. He seemed so happy that I found him. He is always quick and prompt to respond to my face book emails with lengthy information about himself as well as commenting on everything I would talk about.



So we met up one time to exchange performing arts flyers for each other to pass out to people that we each knew, to help each other's businesses out and that is how I got his phone number. He seems to be putting off a very welcoming energy towards me and now whenever he sees me, I think he is finally comfortable enough to approach me, and he does. He just seems so nervous and I don't know what to do to help him understand that he can chill out with me and if nothing else, just hang out and get to know me.



I tend to be the main one that approaches him, because he seems to want to approach me, but at times seems paralyzed by his own nervousness. He seems relieved when I approach him.



Also, I am going through a life changing break up right now (me and my ex are past the stage of mourning the relationship, and are now in good friend stage), and this performing arts friend of mine seems to be very empathetic and compassionate to my situation.



Since I am mainly the one who approaches him, or texts, or emails him, I am starting to wonder if he really likes me of if maybe he is just a really nice guy. Any advice?



Extra info:

I am a Cancer

He is a Taurus

I am African American

He is European American

I am older than him and I have children (in midst of divorce)

He has met my kid and their dad and doesn't seem to mind





** I am not looking to enter into another serious relationship at the moment, but it would sure be nice to have a friend who might like me and might be a great possibility for a relationship in the future**



.Shy guy who likes me, or shy guy who is just nice. Please! I have to know?
It sounds like you two have a great relationship of some sort just waiting for someone to toss a silken cord to the other. With what you tell me, it sounds as if he'd love to spend more time with you, and simply doesn't know how (or whether) to approach you, the older woman in the changing life circumstances. The picture I have in my mind is of a sensitive young man willing to accept whatever attention you bring him, but doesn't want to risk pushing his way into your life.



Frankly, I think you've already hit on the solution. Take that last sentence, the one in the double asterisks, and deliver it to him. It would best be done in person, with a nice latte or something. The more bandwidth you can give it, the better (in person, then phone call, then phone message, hand-written note, email, and (gasp) text message).



As far as the ';extra info'; goes, I don't see what the first four lines have to do with the relationship. If those have any appreciable effect, I suspect that you're in a bit of trouble. The last two matter -- and it seems that you're both willing to work *together* on it.



You have a big win waiting for you, on way or another. Go to him, tell him, and tell him it's okay to invite himself to your life once in a while -- you may say no sometimes, but it's only temporary, and you enjoy the attention.



Oh yeah -- time for me to quit rambling -- I'm holding you up.