How to deal with a break up?

So long story short, been together for 5 years almost, she came to uni, changed, broke up with me to be with someone else then came back to me because she knows she made a mistake and loves me (those are her words) i didnt know why why she broke up with me, i proposed when we were together again, i wanted to finally meet her dad she was worried because she knew if i found out i would break up with her, she tells me, i sorta forgive her, the other guy is her flat mate : /



I KNOW that this relationship was ment to be over a long time ago. But i love her sooo much even though she did all that (btw theres more but too much for you to read) and i know i can look past it if i know that it wont happen again. Looking at other relationships im pretty sure it would happen again.



So yesterday i was trying to get into contact with her because i needed help with something (still together at this time btw) she didnt answer her phone or reply my txts till 4pm because she was asleep (totally out of charecter shes always up at 12 at the latest) i found out that she drove the other guy to the airport because he got up late so he told her to help him. sigh...



So i broke up with her but knowing us were probably going to get back together so my question is...



Is it possible to cheat on someone but know that you made a mistake and it wont ever happen again?

Should i ever trust her again?

Should i get back together with her?

How do i go back to being plain ol' me with her?



I know im asking a lot but please help :(How to deal with a break up?
Communication, you need to open up a sincere communication about all between the two of you. Tell her how much your hurting, she needs to hear it, even if she treatens to walk out. She needs to know the consequences of her actions. You are a very patient and loving man to have put up with all she has done. You'll need to set firm conditions my dear, if I were you I'd lay down a one last chance and really mean it. As in don't hold it against her, but you will not tolerate it a second time around. Some peolple sad to say, do things that are hurtful, and without realizing it. And most likely these same people will not learn to respectfully live with others without getting burnt a bit. And I mean by that: She needs to know there are limits to you, or esle I fear she'll keep playing the yoyo game with your heart. You know, many don't know how much a person is important to them until they lose him or her. And this sure sounds like her in this case. I don't know much about you, only what I could pick up from your question here, but you seem to come across as a nice guy. You remember that, and that you deserve to be treated a lot better than that. In some cases it is very important to think of number one, and this is such a one.



Hope this helps, take care and hope things work out for the best for you.How to deal with a break up?
you seem like you still hang on her ,go back but take care this time tell she proves that she loves you
Five years is along time. I'd try again with her
Go to iamawesome.com. It helps me a lot when I am sad. :))
yes it is possible but you will never know... she is the only one who knows how sorry or not sorry she is and if she will do or not do it again. as for trust- if you wanna be with her again you need to learn to trust her, as difficult as it will be. My suggestion is get the hell out if you still can, you will grow and learn from this experience. Just dont rush out of the crappy feeling, its a healthy normal process you have to go through. Dont let it get you down. Think of it as smile because you had it, dont cry because its gone type of thinking. One day someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anybody
Im really sorry this is happening to you ! when it comes about a long relationship and cheating is really hard on giving opinions ... i really do think you should sit down and have a long talk with her sorry to tell you but she destroy something you guys built in 5 years , TRUST is something beautiful and is one of the most important things on a marriage i honestly don't think you will be able to trust her again like you did before ! every body deserves a second chance i do agree with that but she already has it if she really cares for you she should keep a distance from this other guy and it looks like she is not doing it ! just keep in mind that you guys are giving it a try one more time and not that you are back together again like before because it might get your heart broken again Love is beautiful and it forgives but she broke one of the most important basics and if she is willing to gain your trust again she woulnt be near the person that she fail to you with . E veruthing happens for a reason maybe shes just not the one for you and its sad because there people like her that finds a good man that wants a family with her and she ***** up while ther are some girls out there that has giving their all to a man that walk out of them with the coldest heart ever love is very strange sometimes ! wish you luck i hope this help at least a bit sorry...
Move on and look for another relationship,that is a lot easier than trying repair a relationship that has gone bad.When you become too emotionally invested in someone,you get hurt when it is over.Relationships run their course and you learn from that experience,people change over time with careers and other interests.Some relationships are just not meant to be.