How to deal with ex-boyfriend changing after break-up?

Ex-boyfriend and I were together for several years. After a hideous breakup, moving on and getting married to other people, we decided to become friends a couple years later.



Can you explain: why is it that all the things I wanted him to change (smoking, drinking habits, getting a better job, going on more vacations instead of working so much) - he did AFTER he met his new wife?



I am happily married, and have no wish to go back to that - so it isn't a ';I want him back'; scenario. Just some insight as to why...



I am not asking for personal criticisms - but why is it that sometimes you try to wish change upon a person, to make him a healthier, happier person - so that when you finally give up - they change for the better, when they are no longer with you??



Some insights?How to deal with ex-boyfriend changing after break-up?
Maybe he did these things after you broke up cos he probably realised what you were saying was true.



At least u didn't have to put up with him when he was changing that could have been bad 4 u! Glad ur happy now!