How does these work? like really!?

My mom and dad during Christmas break, changed, why I don’t know. They changed after I got my first boyfriend, I’m 17. (I can move out when in 18) and I really do like him, and where planning to meet up again during summer well before the summer most likely.



And well now my mom and dad are making up more and more rules, at first it was “you need to do the dishes before you can use the phone” and imp like… “Ok” like what’s hard about washing dishing? I only have 7 people in my house. Not that hard. More cups then anything else. so then I started and I thought I was doing a good job, and then my mom and dad spas at me for what I don’t know, and they tried taking away my bf, with out me saying good bye or anything they where like “well, maybe you should let him see your heartless ***** side? Dumb ***. You’re mean and heartless and you’re never talking to him again, or anything. And where not letting you calls to break up with him. Because your not aloud to used the phone” and they tried to take away the phone I PAY FOR! My money I earn for my JOB. now they change there mind. Now its “clean up the full house, the out side, shove the drive way, and clean up the dog ****, take the dogs for a walk, and then, home work, and then work, and then once you get home, they you can, maybe. Unless the house is a mess” wtf? What I’m I there slave? No one else in this house has chores!!! And my sisters and brothers wont help because there to busy sitting on there lazy asses! I’m so confused. What did I do wrong? Got a boyfriend, everything blows up in my face. Maybe its just life telling me I’m not aloud to be happy…How does these work? like really!?
Hang in there, you'll get to move out soon. Parent's don't realize sometimes that they push their kids out with their own actions, words and demands. Good luck to you.How does these work? like really!?
you need better spelling:it is :- we're planning to meet up again OR we are planning to meet up again not ';where'; - that is the opposite of there.

Your parents are jealous and domineering, keep a low profile and when you're 18 you can do what you want
Right, I think you need to have an honest talk with your parents. Let them know that although you understand that they only want to protect you, let them see that what they are saying and doing is hurtful, and that you are almost an adult and are old and wise enough to make your own decisions. Also, its your boyfriend and they cant tell you who to date. Good luck xx
Oh Cinderella. Your parents are trying to keep you from going to the ball. They think if they keep you so busy that you don't have time or are too exhausted to go out, then they are being the good parent. Tell your parents that you would like to date this boy. Have they met him yet? Maybe he could come over to your house the first couple of times. In the mean time, you have no choice but to comply with what they ask. If you don't they will have a good reason to ground you and then what will you do.



I do not agree that they can take a phone away that you pay for. That is unfair. If they want the option of restricting you from the phone, they should not take advantage of you and they should supply the phone themselves.



Unfortunately for you, I think your parents are taking great advantage of the fact that you want to do something and they can ask for something in return first. I honestly do not see a way out for you though.
I agree that you need to talk with your parents...

This sounds like it is more about keeping you too busy to date... and possibly get into trouble. You need to assure them that you don't do sex or anything like that, and you insist on marriage first.

Since you are the only one with chores and they are putting severe limitations on you... it is basically slavery. Show up with a big calendar and a notepad... come up with a chore schedule for everyone in that household. Failing that, you just gather up the dishes and do those, then head off to work.



If they won't back down, you have to get slick... tell them that thanks to them, your BF broke up with you. You leave the house dressed for work, and change en-route for your dates, then change back to work clothes for the return home.



Other than that, you really need to be saving your money... you will probably want to launch out of there. To get your first modest apartment, most places require first and last month's rent plus a deposit.



If they take away your phone, you just go get a cheap replacement as if it were lost. Make sure you have all the phone numbers written down somewhere. Learn to turn off the ringer when you get home. Use password protection on all your devices.